Get ready to pull out your calculator - or maybe just use one hand - and start calculating if you match up with the average frequency of sexual activity.
If the CDC survey on the average number of sexual partners didn't already send you into an existential crisis, brace yourself for the revelation of how often, or not so often, people are getting intimate in the bedroom each year.
Every relationship is different, but it's still interesting to see if you're having more or less sex compared to the average.
Sex therapists and researchers have determined an average number of times one should engage in intimate activities each year.
In 2022, a TikToker named Daniel Schaal, known as @thatschaalfolks, went viral after disclosing this 'magic number,' which left both him and his followers shocked at the challenge of matching up.
In his video, he humorously remarked to the camera, "The average person has sex 54 times a year or so, looks like the next few days are gonna be pretty crazy for me."
Is sex a regular part of your year?
Following the revelation of the yearly statistic, viewers rushed to the comments to share their thoughts.
One TikTok user quipped, "I did it 54 times between January and February so I could relax from March to December." Another typed, "Well someone here must be doing it 54 extra times to make up for me."
A third remarked, "Well I’ll certainly be below average on yet another thing." And a fourth viewer humorously noted, "I’m 45 times behind lol."
In 2017, a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior indicated that the average adult has sex approximately once per week.
TikToker Daniel Schaal sent social media into overdrive. (thatschaalfolks/TikTok)
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Communication is Key
If you're feeling frustrated about the amount of sex you and your partner are having, one of the most effective solutions is to openly discuss your concerns. By talking it out, you can express your desire for a more fulfilling sex life and collaboratively devise a strategy to achieve this.
This might involve trading your morning workout for some intimate time or dedicating one night a week to a romantic date night.
Seek Advice from Sex Therapists
If simply committing to more sex doesn't yield results, consider consulting a sex therapist to address deeper issues. These professionals can assist you and your partner in pinpointing and hopefully resolving any underlying problems related to intimacy.
Seeing a sex therapist could get you and you S.O back in the bedroom.
Let Yourself Be Vulnerable
According to sex expert Phil Stutz, embracing the 'Shadow' aspect of your psyche, as theorized by Carl Jung, is crucial for deep intimacy. This involves acknowledging and integrating parts of yourself you might usually suppress, thereby allowing for a more authentic sexual connection.
Ultimately, while statistics can provide a benchmark, the most important aspect is ensuring that your sexual relationship aligns with your personal needs and those of your partner. As the saying goes, "you do you," emphasizing the importance of personal satisfaction over societal averages.
