In a bold move that’s stirring up the digital dating world, the developers behind the wildly popular Tea app have launched a male-oriented counterpart called TeaOnHer.
This new app flips the script, allowing men to anonymously share reviews and insights about women they’ve dated, focusing on red flags, questionable behavior, and overall dating experiences.
Mirroring the functionality of its predecessor, TeaOnHer has quickly captured attention, rocketing to the third spot in the U.S. App Store’s free app rankings — trailing only Tea and ChatGPT. The rapid rise of TeaOnHer signals a cultural shift in how men and women navigate the complexities of modern dating, but it also raises questions about fairness, privacy, and the ethics of anonymous review platforms.
A Mirror Image of Tea
TeaOnHer is essentially a gender-reversed version of Tea, the women-only app that exploded in popularity in 2023 and became the No. 1 free app in the U.S. App Store by July 2025.
Tea allows verified female users to anonymously post reviews, photos, and “red flag” or “green flag” ratings about men they’ve dated, along with tools like background checks and sex offender map integrations for enhanced safety.
TeaOnHer replicates this model, enabling men to share their own anonymous accounts of dating experiences with women.
Users can flag concerning behavior, post photos, and comment on women’s dating profiles, all while maintaining anonymity.
The app’s features are nearly identical to Tea’s: government ID verification for users, GPS-locked reports to ensure location accuracy, a three-tier privacy system (real name, pseudonym, or anonymous posting), and a guest mode for non-users to browse and report safety concerns.
TeaOnHer markets itself as a “safety companion” for men using dating platforms like Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge, promising “verified community protection and safety insights” before a first date.
However, unlike Tea, which emphasizes robust safety tools like criminal record searches and reverse-image lookups, TeaOnHer focuses more on community-driven gossip, lacking some of the advanced safety features of its female counterpart.
A Meteoric Rise in Popularity
The launch of TeaOnHer has sparked a frenzy among male users, propelling the app to the third spot in the U.S. App Store’s overall rankings within days of its debut. This places it just behind Tea, which holds the No. 1 spot, and ChatGPT, a testament to the app’s immediate cultural impact.
The surge in downloads reflects a pent-up demand among men who felt sidelined by Tea’s women-only model, where they could be reviewed and flagged without any means to respond or even access the platform. Social media platforms like Reddit and TikTok have buzzed with discussions about TeaOnHer, with some male users hailing it as a long-overdue response to Tea’s one-sided narrative.
“Finally, a platform where guys can share their side of the story,” one user posted on Reddit’s r/MensRights forum. Others have echoed the sentiment, arguing that TeaOnHer levels the playing field in a dating landscape increasingly shaped by distrust and defensive strategies. The app’s tagline, “helping men date safe,” directly mirrors Tea’s “helping women date safe,” signaling a deliberate attempt to reclaim the narrative for men.
A Double-Edged Sword?
While TeaOnHer’s rapid ascent suggests a hunger for reciprocity, it hasn’t come without controversy.
The original Tea app faced significant backlash for its lack of accountability — men had no way to challenge or respond to potentially false or defamatory posts, raising ethical and legal concerns about privacy and harassment.
TeaOnHer inherits these same issues, with critics arguing that its anonymous review system could be abused to spread misinformation or settle personal scores.
Reports have already surfaced of troubling content on the platform, including spam posts with non-consensual images and derogatory comments about women, echoing similar concerns raised about Tea.
Moreover, TeaOnHer has been plagued by security flaws, much like its predecessor. TechCrunch reported a major vulnerability that exposed users’ personal data, including usernames, email addresses, selfies, and even driver’s licenses, through publicly accessible web addresses.
This breach, affecting an estimated 53,000 users, mirrors a similar data leak on Tea that exposed 72,000 images, including government IDs. These incidents have fueled skepticism about the safety of both apps, with some questioning whether the rush to capitalize on the “Yelp for people” trend has compromised user privacy.
User reviews on the App Store, where TeaOnHer currently holds a 2.0-star rating from 132 reviews, highlight additional issues.
Many users have reported technical glitches, such as server timeouts during registration and difficulties staying logged in. “I tried to sign up, uploaded my ID and photo, but it keeps timing out,” one reviewer complained.
Others, including a 15-year-old user, have raised alarms about the app’s potential to target minors or facilitate bullying, pointing to posts that expose individuals without their consent.
Justice or Revenge?
The tagline “justice has prevailed” has been thrown around by some TeaOnHer supporters, who see the app as a necessary counterbalance to Tea’s one-sided framework. However, the reality is more nuanced. Both apps thrive on anonymity, which empowers users to share candid experiences but also opens the door to misuse.
The lack of a verification process for the truthfulness of posts on either platform means that personal grudges or fabricated stories can proliferate unchecked. Legal experts have already flagged the potential for defamation lawsuits, and the absence of an appeals process for those reviewed only deepens the ethical quagmire.
Magdalene Taylor, a journalist who has tracked the rise of both apps, told Newsweek, “There’s a fine line between accountability and punishment. When there’s no way to respond or explain yourself, it starts to feel like punishment.” This sentiment captures the broader cultural tension: while Tea and TeaOnHer aim to foster safer dating through community insights, they also risk amplifying mistrust and division between genders.
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A Reflection of Modern Dating
The meteoric rise of TeaOnHer, like Tea before it, underscores a broader shift in dating culture — one defined by caution, digital mediation, and a growing reliance on crowd-sourced information. With traditional dating apps like Bumble and Match reporting declining user engagement, platforms like Tea and TeaOnHer are filling a void for those seeking greater transparency in a high-stakes dating landscape. Yet, their success also reflects a deeper societal malaise: a “loneliness epidemic,” as noted by U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, particularly among men, coupled with widespread fatigue with the superficiality of modern dating.
For now, TeaOnHer’s climb to the third spot in the App Store signals that the appetite for such platforms is far from fading. Whether this represents a step toward fairness or a descent into mutual surveillance remains to be seen. As both apps continue to dominate the charts, they serve as a stark reminder of how technology is reshaping not just how we date, but how we trust — and judge — one another.
