The dating world has a new buzzword: "shreking." This term describes the trend of lowering one’s standards for a partner’s physical appearance, often driven by desperation or a desire to settle. But while it might seem like a practical solution in a crowded dating pool, experts are sounding the alarm — shreking could be taking a toll on your self-esteem.
Researchers suggest that pairing up with someone you’re not physically attracted to can set off a psychological chain reaction.
When the spark isn’t there, people tend to unconsciously expect more affection or validation from their partner to compensate. It’s a subconscious bid to fill the emotional gap left by the lack of attraction. However, this dynamic can backfire spectacularly.
If the relationship ends — especially if the less-attractive partner initiates the breakup — the fallout can be brutal. Studies indicate that the rejection can lead to heightened feelings of emptiness and depression, far worse than a breakup with someone you were initially drawn to. The combination of unmet expectations and a bruised ego amplifies the emotional wreckage.
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So, while shreking might offer a quick fix in the short term, it’s a gamble with your mental health. Dating experts urge singles to prioritize self-worth over settling, suggesting that true compatibility — looks included — might save more heartache in the long run. As the term gains traction, it’s clear the dating landscape is evolving, and not always for the better.
